Many of us are familiar with the story of Esther. An orphan girl who wins a beauty pageant. She becomes aware of a plot to annihilate her people and she goes before the king, and at risk to her own life finds herself speaking up to appeal for the people’s safety. The king hangs the wicked Haman and Esther is still the lovely Queen who helped to save her people.
As I was reading through the book the past few weeks I noticed that is not all there is to the story. After Haman is hanged and Mordecai is put into his place Esther went again to the king. This time she wept, she fell at his feet, and she implored him. Apparently the king was more concerned with the wicked Haman and what he saw as an attempt on his wife’s life than actually saving the Jews.
So again Esther came before the king, again speaking up to save her people. The king extended his golden scepter to his queen, again. Twice it seems that Esther appeared before the king at the risk of her own life. Twice she appealed to the king, but the second time it was a bit different. The second time Esther was desperate. Time was running out for her people, and still the king had not acted.
I can only imagine how I would respond in such a situation. I probably would have been rather indignant over the situation. I must admit I would have been guilty of sarcasm. Yet Esther responded with respect and honor both times she approached the king. She had a gentle, well planned request and response for the king each time that she met with him.
Some may argue that most of us are not married to a king, therefore we do not need to present the formal behavior that was necessary for queen Esther as she approached the king. My response to that is to say, we may not be married to a king, but we can still learn from Esther’s example.
Our husband’s need our respect. They need affirmation. Our husbands need us to treat them as if they were a king. To show them honor and respect is what encourages our husbands most.
Esther was in a desperate situation, but she did not allow her emotions to bring her to attack her husband. She did not try to hide her emotions and pretend that she was not affected by the situation that was happening so soon in her life. Her very life was still at stake. She showed her husband her fear, and concern. She fell at his feet and wept. That is some pretty strong emotions, but she did not attack her husband. She still treated him with respect even in a very difficult situation.
Esther’s king granted her request and the Jews defended themselves. And we must remember that a woman, placed in a very important position by God was able to turn the head of the king.
As women we have some pretty significant influence over our husbands. I pray that we will use that influence to honor our husbands and build them up in the Lord.
I pray that as we head into the rest of this week that we will seek out ways that we can come along side our husbands in a way that is honoring and respectful to them, and their God-given position in our lives. I pray that we will cling to you dear Jesus for our strength to act in ways that are contrary to our sinful nature. Amen